With your help, we’re going to rewrite your story. That strong woman, yet fragile as a flower, will have her own garden. Because that’s exactly what we need to be able to face the world. If you have your garden, you have your own defences and your boundaries. You don’t care about other people’s garden, you want to know what’s going on with yours. Here, the garden represents your self-esteem. Like the garden, it exists, but needs to be taken care of! We want to have a beautiful garden, covered in blooming flowers! So we’re going to take care of you!
It is proven by mathematics that all problems have a solution! So it’s very important that you understand this: making mistakes is part of your DNA. You need your heart to breathe, right? You also need to make mistakes to learn! Many people have this aversion to FAILURE and put such a great pressure on them that they feel, all the time, like they’re swimming with no foot. So put your armbands on and don’t just stay there floating around! Use your mistakes to go further!
And if I talked about learning how to deal with your mistakes, now I want you to understand when it’s time to throw a big party! Yes, that’s right! Life is too short for you not to celebrate all good things that happen to you! I don’t care if you are the shy type, or if you don’t even like throwing parties, you must celebrate yourself! Have you seen the amazing things you’ve been able to achieve? You don’t have to do anything special to celebrate yourself. I want you to get pain in your jaw as you smile so much! I want to hear you scare away this boring negativity!
And, something very important: there are no comparisons here, with whatever your cousin has already achieved or what your best friend has already done! For example, you knew that in Cambodia it is very common to eat a tarantula kebab! Very strange! But I tell you this just so you realise there are so many different tastes and what for some is amazing, for others, it can be horrible! Better than trying to fit in, live your life as the main character and leave the secondary role on a secondary plane. Don’t waste energy thinking about something that’s secondary!
Now that I’ve told you all the wording, let’s go to the chorus of this song! Let’s get on with it! Think about what you’re really good at, no fears. I’m sure you have a talent, you can be good at listening to your friends, for example! Anything goes! You see when we fill the entire car tank? I want you to do the same thing, but with your self-esteem! The pointer will hit up there! You can think about what you do best in the work context, how you can also admit that you’re the best cook in the house. When you’re in this process of self-knowledge, you might be surprised. Spending time alone scares a lot of people, but it’s so important to have a cleaner mind. If you fix things around the house, why don’t you go and fix things around your mind too? You may realise that you may even have new hobbies to discover or maybe a new job that will make you smile from ear to ear.
Take a break from that rush that is your life. Wake up – Breakfast – Run to work – Dinner – Sleep. Where’s the “few minutes of Me Time” part? Open a little space in your diary! In the book “The Power of Habit”, Charles Duhhig states that it takes 21 days of repetition to create a new habit. So your 21 days can start today! Your new habit is to take care of your self-esteem! In 21 days, you’re going to have your garden so special, develop this unwavering belief in yourself, that your light is going to compete in the sun! Even if you already have your own light! You’re just slightly forgotten or forgot where the switch is! You can find it inside you!!
